I have a friend (who shall remain nameless), an Oakland native turned true New-Yorker, who owns a rabbit fur-lined hoodie, she told me this in secrecy, hushed tones, one visit while strolling around Bloomingdales in Union Square - even at Bloomies rabbit-fur is not okay in San Francisco. Similarly, when I spent 9 months living in Orange County as a 20-year-old I wore Juicy velour sweatsuits with platform flip-flops, fake french tips, and regularly spray tanned. My friends back home were horrified (especially the aforementioned bff).
I was wearing pretty much the same clothes I wear around Bernal Heights—jeans, flats, a “good” T-shirt—a fact that I know will upset my most fashionable San Francisco friends who reserve whole sections of their closets for “New York only” apparel: knit rabbit scarves, Louboutins, stuff you just can’t possibly wear here unless you want to look like a hooker, a rabbit killer or worse.
California: San Francisco, Oakland
NYC: West Village, Downtown
I certainly don't fit in in my hood, the Oakland/Berkeley area. I always want to wear heels and a dress, and then have to be worried about looking overdressed or like I am trying too hard when I am really not trying at all, I'm wearing what feels best to me. I love that in NYC I can go out in a party dress and heels and no one thinks it's strange, but I don't really feel like a babe in New York either, like my style isn't sophisticated enough there, at least not yet. I was recently at my local hipster/motorcycle bar around the corner and there was some discussion of my white, 4-inch, peeptoe heels - I was being teased (in the nicest way possible, these are nice hipsters/bikers); these shoes were completely out of place in this environment. I asked my hecklers how they would characterize my style, and got "Alice in Wonderland", and "Strawberry Shortcake".
I’ve developed a theory: We all have a city in which we look best, a city that somehow aligns with our values and brings out our best selves, that same way certain blue-eyed redheads look great in teal.
I don't know yet where I look best. I have found my style become more and more my own as I get older. I think a lot of that is just getting more comfortable with who you are, and worrying less about about how people may judge you. And it takes being a little brave. Like sometime I worry about other girls talking shit when they see me wearing heels in a bar where no one else is; and they probably are, but I've been on the other side of that scenario, the shit talking side, so I can admit that often it's only because you wish you were confident enough to wear it yourself, or because you wish you could pull it off but don't think you can. Anyway, I guess I am gravitating a bit from the geographical topic, but I think it's all connected.
So, do people really look better in different cities? Where do I look best? Where do you?
Have a lovely Sunday evening, mes amours, xoxo.